The Power of Leaning into Discomfort

Seven years ago when my grandmother died, I drank two bottles of wine in one sitting. I didn’t want to feel. I called my then ex, now husband and he came over and held me the entire night while I cried, and drank and cursed at God for taking away my best friend. That year…

The Subtle Art of Not Making Assumptions

Have you read, The Four Agreements? I’ve been talking about some of the principles here. In addition to The Four Agreements, another book I have read and love that dives into not making assumptions is, “You Are a Badass How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life.” By Jen Sincero. While…

The Subtle Art of Not Taking Anything Personally

  Have you read, The Four Agreements? While my mom would probably cringe if she ever heard me say this, in a way it’s like my bible. I’ve gifted it to uber drivers, strangers, friends and family, hoping it would give them the same clarity it has given me and many of my friends who…

Colorism is Not a Preference, It’s Self-Hatred

  Colorism: Discrimination based on skin color, also known as colorism or shadeism, is a form of prejudice or discrimination in which people are treated differently based on the social meanings attached to skin color. I won’t pretend that I don’t have some form of light skin privilege. That many black men have not placed me and…

When Nothing Goes as Planned, Write About it

These next two weeks I just want to take a break and hopefully get some writing inspiration. I remember saying to myself and just about anyone who would listen. While I had been writing a lot, it still felt like something, someone, a piece of the proverbial puzzle that has become my life was missing. So…

Who Are You When No One is Watching?

Did you see the movie Us? The Jordan Peele film is full of twists and turns and tons of fan theories. I believe one of the underlining messages is that sometimes we are the actual monsters, the villains, the bad guy. We can be our own worst enemies and often the bad guy in our…

Where Did You Go?

    I feel like death is surrounding me. Kind of a morbid way to start a conversation…or blog, or anything really. It’s 100% true though. In the past month alone I’ve found out about several deaths of people that played important roles in my life at several different times in my life. I’m starting…