He Told Me He Would Kill Himself if I left

I was 17. He was in his early twenties. “He’s cute.” My friend whispered to me one day. I agreed. We had both just started working a new job and were smitten over the new guy. I didn’t know much about him other than that he always wore a hooded sweatshirt and his mom sometimes brought him lunch to work which I thought was cute. We became fast friends.

The Not So Subtle Art of Surviving While Being Black in America

We lose count. We lose count of the black people that are senselessly murdered each year. We try to remember each person’s name before another is added to the list. We march, we cry, we sign petitions. We whisper about  how maybe if they had been a little quieter, a little less combative…a little…less…black…maybe…just maybe…

How to Overcome Quarantine Depression

Before Ms. Rona came to town I had been contemplating taking a much needed spiritual and mental retreat away from LA, to my parent’s country lakeside home to clear my head and simply get my life together. I didn’t know how this would work without leaving my job, until the height of the pandemic when…

The Not so Subtle Art of Making Tough Decisions

  There’s something about getting simultaneously hit by two trucks that makes you stop and think… what the hell am I doing with my life right now? As I sit here with muscle relaxers and ibuprofen in my system and pain running from my head to my toes and back up to my fingertips as…

Thank U Next: The Subtle Art of Moving On

Lately I’ve been doing something that may or may not result in me going to hell. At least that was what I was taught by relatives growing up, but anywho, eternal damnation aside, I’ve been listening to readings for my horoscope a lot on youtube. I randomly came across it one day and surprisingly in…

Non Attachment The Subtle Art of Letting Things Go

  It’s not always easy for me to let go. I’ve held onto toxic friendships, relationships, heck it took me forever to get rid of a sweater I haven’t worn in years simply because it had sentimental value, scratch that it’s still in my closet, but I’m going to get rid of it soon…maybe. Don’t…

The Power of Leaning into Discomfort

Seven years ago when my grandmother died, I drank two bottles of wine in one sitting. I didn’t want to feel. I called my then ex, now husband and he came over and held me the entire night while I cried, and drank and cursed at God for taking away my best friend. That year…

The Subtle Art of Not Making Assumptions

Have you read, The Four Agreements? I’ve been talking about some of the principles here. In addition to The Four Agreements, another book I have read and love that dives into not making assumptions is, “You Are a Badass How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life.” By Jen Sincero. While…