Six Funerals and a Wedding

    My Funeral is next week. I remember accidentally saying one week before my wedding. I dont know why I mistakingly said funeral instead of wedding. Maybe it was due to hearing the word funeral so much as so many close friends and family were losing loved ones so close to our wedding, maybe…

8 Signs You are Self Sabotaging Your Dating Life

      It’s Summa summa summa timmmmee and after getting quite a few calls, texts and outright cries for help about men and dating issues I figured I would come out of hiding and help my ladies out. Around spring and summer men tend to totally forget their home training, morals and the fact…

5 Issues You Need To Stop Bringing into Relationships Immediately

Recently I hosted a ladies wine night at my house which consisted of a ton of wine, appetizers, vegan cheesecake that was a hit or miss depending on who you asked, trash talking, confessions of daddy issues and some deep revelations about ourselves few of us hadn’t even realized or admitted to others prior to…

The Art of Seduction: 5 Signs You’re Being Seduced

Many of us have or will experience him, the serial seducer. One minute you have luke-warm take it or leave it feelings for the guy, the next you’re restraining yourself from handing over the panties on a pedestal. How did we so carelessly let our guard down for the guy we were weary about from…

Let’s all stop fueling the Chris Brown Soulja Boy flame shall we?

We’ve seen this act before, and frankly it’s played out. Two black entertainers pinned against each other all for the amusement, or lack there of from the public. What is it that makes them lash out at each other so publicly? Why do we continually tune in and egg on this behavior? What are we…

5 Things You Have to Leave in 2016

    If you are looking for the typical generic post telling you that you will reach optimal happiness in the new year if you simply follow these steps, you won’t find it here. Though I want you to be as happy as possible, that’s not something I can guarantee. If you are looking for…

Confessions of a Light Skinned Black Girl

    I won’t pretend that I was always  woke —that there was never a time when I had smiled to myself when someone asked me if I was mixed, as if that somehow would make me unique — a question I eventually came to hate. I won’t act as if when I was getting my…

7 Signs the Guy of your Dreams isn’t the One

We’ve all been there – some of us embarrassingly more times than others. We’ve fallen head over heels for a guy who simply is not the one for us. No matter how much we try to ignore the many tell-tale and even blatantly obvious signs, we continue to talk to him, see him and obsess…

8 Types of Emotional Leeches and How to Deal with Them

We all have them in our lives. Emotional leeches come in many forms and usually once you have them, it’s pretty darn hard to get rid of them. They are your closest friends, family members, coworkers and relationship partners. They have a way of simply sucking the life out of you whenever they are near and…

7 Simple Reasons Why Being Single is Pretty Amazing

      I haven’t been single since I was a teenager. Seriously single anyway. I’ve never experienced living on my own, or dating as an adult and all of the ups and downs that come with being single. While some of my single girlfriends may envy me I often look at them with the…

I got a job :-(

I’m not going to lie, when I first got my job I thought about not telling anyone except my close family and friends. Why? Because honestly, a part of me was embarrassed. After proudly boasting about quitting my previous job to pursue freelance writing and working on my book I felt like I was giving up…

Why It’s ok to Have A Pity Party

      I’ve hit a roadblock. I’ve approached a place in my life where I don’t know what is going to happen next and no matter how much planning or strategizing I’ve been doing I can’t seem to find my way to the other side of this blockage that’s going on. I’ve had days…