Who Are You When No One is Watching?

Did you see the movie Us? The Jordan Peele film is full of twists and turns and tons of fan theories. I believe one of the underlining messages is that sometimes we are the actual monsters, the villains, the bad guy. We can be our own worst enemies and often the bad guy in our…

Where Did You Go?

    I feel like death is surrounding me. Kind of a morbid way to start a conversation…or blog, or anything really. It’s 100% true though. In the past month alone I’ve found out about several deaths of people that played important roles in my life at several different times in my life. I’m starting…

Thank you Neyo: An Open Letter From a Wife to a Married Man

Have you ever heard a man reprimand another man for cheating on his spouse? I haven’t, ever. What I have heard is men bragging about cheating, sympathizing with the cheater, assisting him in said cheating, or being amused by it. I’ve seen this circumstance time and time again and very rarely have I ever, certainly…

Six Funerals and a Wedding

    My Funeral is next week. I remember accidentally saying one week before my wedding. I dont know why I mistakingly said funeral instead of wedding. Maybe it was due to hearing the word funeral so much as so many close friends and family were losing loved ones so close to our wedding, maybe…

8 Signs You are Self Sabotaging Your Dating Life

      It’s Summa summa summa timmmmee and after getting quite a few calls, texts and outright cries for help about men and dating issues I figured I would come out of hiding and help my ladies out. Around spring and summer men tend to totally forget their home training, morals and the fact…

5 Issues You Need To Stop Bringing into Relationships Immediately

Recently I hosted a ladies wine night at my house which consisted of a ton of wine, appetizers, vegan cheesecake that was a hit or miss depending on who you asked, trash talking, confessions of daddy issues and some deep revelations about ourselves few of us hadn’t even realized or admitted to others prior to…

The Art of Seduction: 5 Signs You’re Being Seduced

Many of us have or will experience him, the serial seducer. One minute you have luke-warm take it or leave it feelings for the guy, the next you’re restraining yourself from handing over the panties on a pedestal. How did we so carelessly let our guard down for the guy we were weary about from…

Let’s all stop fueling the Chris Brown Soulja Boy flame shall we?

We’ve seen this act before, and frankly it’s played out. Two black entertainers pinned against each other all for the amusement, or lack there of from the public. What is it that makes them lash out at each other so publicly? Why do we continually tune in and egg on this behavior? What are we…